Did you have a powerful female in your life, who led you, held you when you were sad or sick and promised you everything would be alright? If yes, that is great you had such a wonderful role model. Just as there are wonderful examples of what a “mom” can be and has stood for, not everyone had a nurturing, supportive, unconditionally loving mother growing up.
Are you one of the thousands of kids or adults who feel resentment for Mother’s Day? You’re not alone.
What you can be grateful for is life. You are here because a woman chose to birth you. To carry you in her womb, and give you the opportunity to LIVE. And while perhaps some women didn’t treat the womb with love, care and protection, you are HERE and you can make a difference in your own life and in the lives of others. The circumstances of how you were born or what you were born into does not need to dictate your whole life. Mother’s Day is not about remembering the deeply felt pain of what you didn’t have, it’s about acknowledging your existence and reminding yourself of how loving and wonderful you are!
A woman who does not love herself couldn’t possibly know what it looks like to love another human being. And her life choices may have been sculpted based on her role models, who may not have known self-love either. So if you were the recipient of learning that not all mothers provide love, I AM sending you love.
I want you to know, you ARE loved. You are worthy, you are beautiful, you are strong, you are powerful beyond measure, and you are here for a reason. Even if you were abused, in any way, it’s not YOU that caused that. You may have been an easy target, a mirror, a helpless little child who didn’t have defenses, and that is not your fault. When we are young, we can only hope that the adults, the “big” people will protect us, and that doesn’t always happen. Men and women make unloving choices every day. Wounded children are having children. It’s a vicious cycle that continues to repeat itself, and YOU have an opportunity to end it, for yourself, your future and your ancestral line. Pray for yourself and for your family. Pray that your family learns to love, and for this, you can be a catalyst.
There is a reason I created The Happy Channel and why I wrote The Love Channel: Finding Your Way to Happiness. There is more to life than what meets the eye or what is deeply felt in the heart. Our memories can provide pathways to healing, and understanding.
So, today get in front of a mirror and look yourself in the eye. Or, just say out loud, “I am an amazing human being. I was brought into this world to make a difference. I am not my past, and I can be my own role model. I am strong, beautiful, desirable and I deserve to live a life I love. I am enough and have always been enough. I am loved and everything is going to be okay.”
Self-love is the key to your happiness. Discover your beauty, your big heart, your kindness, and embrace all that is YOU. Mother’s Day, recreate what life means to you.
‘Til next time, thanks for reading, and keep on believing!