Take a Step Back to Empower Yourself

Take a Step Back to Empower Yourself

When I take a step back, it’s not back in time.
It’s more of stepping away from the situation, conversation, or experience.
My joy is in my heart. When I’m not feeling joy, what can I see when I step back? What perspective can I gain by being an outsider?
Where can I distill the shades of green, blue, and black?
What parts of me am I missing when joy is not involved?
Who can see better than me what’s best/right/joyful for me?
A joyous outcome does not serve if it’s not rooted in love.
Taking a step back gives me clarity. Presence.
And then, I can reintegrate and bring the fullness of me forward into the light of day where there are yellows, oranges, and greens, colors that shine lighter than the dark hues that once filled my space and denied me access to joy. It’s in the dark I see the light. It’s when I step back that I can see the bigger picture of my soul.
Empowering yourself is embodying your power. It’s in you, and has been there all along.
Don’t let anyone tell you how to do you. Do not let anyone describe the difference between what’s right and wrong for you. Sometimes it takes more than a few run-ins with dark shades of green, blue and black to arrive at your light. Do not let that deter you. Hold the key in your dominant hand. Push the door open with your other hand or body, and know that you deserve to step forward. You deserve to be in the new space you created for yourself. You deserve to be.
Step back, and see.



(Image by S. Hermann & F. Richter from Pixabay)

Mantra for the Day

Mantra for the Day

I went to a yoga class this morning and with every inhale and exhale our breath was guided by Peace, Joy, Love & Compassion. I was at such ease when I left that I felt to share my experience with you.

Mantra for the Day:
I am Peace
I am Joy
I am Love
I am Compassion

Breathe in…
Peace
Joy
Love
Compassion

Breathe out…
Peace
Joy
Love
Compassion

Repeat as needed.

‘Til next time, thanks for reading & Keep on Breathing! 🙂

Life & Dying

Here’s the truth about Life.

From the moment we are born, we are dying. Those who are actually told when they will die (from diseases, accidents, surgeries, etc.) have an opportunity to choose how they want to leave earth, whenever that is. They have the choice of how they want to live while they are here, and if they have anything they’d like to change, or people with whom they’d like to make amends with, they know how much time (approximately) they have to do so.

However, for the rest of us, WE are given that same opportunity, it just looks different. Because we haven’t been given a timeline, we have an opportunity in EVERY DAY of our lives to make amends and choose how we want to live.

Questions to ask yourself: If you were going to die tomorrow, would you change anything about your life? Would you reach out to someone you haven’t spoken with in a while? Is there anyone you would like to apologize to? Are you proud of how you have lived your life?

Since you really don’t know when your time is “up”, every day is another day for you to make a change, if you wanted to. When people say, “be grateful you have another day”, it’s true! Think about all the people who went to work in NYC on the morning of September 11, 2001. Even though I didn’t work in or near the World Trade Center, my life was affected by what happened. And imagine all those who woke up and went to work that day and never woke up again.

Our intuition serves as a guide even in that area. Some folks knew it was “their time”, and others made peace with it. And I bet there was a handful who really weren’t expecting to die that day.

So, the truth is that we’re ALL going to die one day. At this very moment, you are dying. When is that day? You don’t know, unless you are tuned into your intuition and you trust your guidance system.

The questions to ask yourself now are:

How do I want to live?

Am I happy with my life?

Do I have a ‘bucket list’, and if so, have I crossed anything off it yet?

If I am not happy with my life, what can I do to change it, even if it’s a small step?
(A step is a step, no matter its size, it’s still moving you forward.)

Is there anyone I wish I could speak with? Is there anyone I miss and with whom wish I could communicate?
(If any of these people have already passed, you CAN tell them you miss them. If you feel you need to make amends with someone who has passed, you CAN do so. Just call their name, internally in your mind or out loud, and share with them what you feel is in your heart. It’s never too late, they can still hear you.)

Are there any dreams I wish I would have pursued?
(It doesn’t matter your age, it’s never too late. I know a woman who, at 92 went back to school to get her college degree.)

Choose to live a life you’re proud of and think about how you want to be remembered. THIS is YOUR TIME, RIGHT NOW, and NOW, and NOW. Go! Live! Be Happy! You deserve to live a great life!

‘Til next time, thanks for reading & Happy Dreaming! 🙂

Are you living your best life?

Are you living your best life?

It sounds like something Oprah would ask you, and I want to know too! Are you living your best life?

Do you love your life? Do you enjoy your line of work? Do you even consider it ‘work’? Do you have a life you’ve always dreamed of? It’s time for you to say YES!

I love my life. I love traveling, I love being of service to people & dreams have come true!

Just so you know, this wasn’t always the case.

To give you some background, I used to struggle, suffer, complain, be the victim, blame others, and where did that get me? Upset and unhappy. And I was sick a lot. Can you relate?

I spent many years thinking that ending my life would be better than living it until one day I met a man who had a grin ear-to-ear for no reason! (If I’ve shared this with you in a previous post, please bear with me, it’s still relevant. LOL) At first I thought there was something wrong with him, but every time I saw him he was smiling and what really bugged me was that I wanted that! I wanted to be happy and smiling all the time! So, I asked him why he was always smiling, how he got that way, lol, and he told me how he transformed his life. He told me about a few courses I could take, but all I had to do was go online, do a search and go with the one I liked! I had enough of being miserable, so I scoured the internet for transformative programs to help me turn my life around. And thus my personal growth began.

This blog post isn’t about all the classes I’ve taken, or what I’ve taken or where I went to transform my life. This blog post is about the fact I changed my life and so can you!

The moment I started to take an interest in becoming the best me I could be, things began to shift. As I invested in myself, I began to understand why & how I ticked and how to tick differently! The more I yearned to rediscover myself, the more my life changed. You might be wondering, how did it change?

First, how my life looked before; I disliked my job and stayed in it because I didn’t think I could find something better. I had almost no female friends. My dating life looked like a revolving door. I was insecure and scared, putting myself in dangerous situations almost on purpose, like I had nothing to lose and didn’t care! I was living a life of fear!

I loved to play the victim. If I was the victim, I got attention. I thought that was how to get attention, how to get love, but it was really manipulation. I had to get out of my own way to see how I was responsible for not having the love I wanted or the friendships I desired.

When I started to invest in myself, I learned how to LIVE.

What I learned was that I wasn’t able to attract men who were honest, kind and respectful until I became honest, kind and respectful with myself first. I wasn’t able to attract loving, generous & open friends until I became the same. You attract who you are.

My friendships changed, my relationships with my immediate and extended family changed, my view of myself changed, I became responsible for my actions and choices and now I live a life with integrity!

Just so you know, investing in yourself does take some work. It takes courage to look at yourself and the choices you’ve made thus far. It takes the willingness to learn, to be open to a new perspective. The reward though, is worth it!

Life is an on-going journey, with lessons to be learned daily. When my life started to change, I kept going. I continue to take classes in areas of interest because I want to have a mastery of how to live my best life!

As a result of my hard work and dedication to myself, I have a life that I love! I live in Hawaii, in a home I love, I’ve started 2 new businesses that I intend to grow to help millions of people and I’m continuing to see my dreams come true! 🙂

So, what I want to know is, are you ready to invest in yourself? Did you once invest in yourself and then stopped when you didn’t see the results you wanted? Keep going! You are more ready than you know and you deserve to live the life of your dreams! 🙂 What are you waiting for? Your best life is waiting for you now!

‘Til next time, thanks for reading, and Happy Dreaming! 🙂