Stop. Breathe. Be.
(This applies to any time of year, and any day!)
Generally speaking, Thanksgiving is a time for family, friends, lots of food, football, parades, and a long weekend off from work. Over the years, that time off has become about a shopping frenzy for the holidays.
Spend, spend, spend, get up EARLY, or go to bed early afternoon, and rest later. And now you have the “benefit” of never leaving your home so you can spend your day off online, spending as much as possible.
Here’s a thought, Stop. Breathe. Be.
Just because there are sales, it doesn’t mean you have to shop. If you have Friday off from work, take the day off. Chill out, sleep in, do the dishes later.
If you do decide to shop, have a plan, and when you’re done shopping for others, make sure you get something for yourself.
I have a rule when I shop, “Love It or Leave It.”
If I’m on the fence, it stays in the store. This will help you get through your list. (And whenever you shop.)
Stop, Breathe, Be is for everyone, wherever you are in the world, whether you are celebrating Thanksgiving, Chanukah, any other holiday OR coming upon time off from work.
You deserve to live a life that rewards you. You deserve to live a life that you are excited to wake up to. You deserve to live a life that flows with your breath.
#Stop #Breathe #Be
Dear World Wide Web,
When I first heard about you, I was in college. I remember being in the school library, ready to begin a research paper. I had heard that I could find out more information about my topic by logging into one of the computers and typing “www” and the title of a page which I believe was supposed to lead me to the information I needed. I was so nervous and scared. What if I walked up to the computer and did it wrong? You, World Wide Web, at that time, seemed like this “other world” that only a few knew of and existed in. What really existed on the other side? Would it really be easier for me to search for the information I needed rather than browse the 30,000+ books on 4 different floors? I was daunted by the task at hand, to learn something new. A new way of being. A new way of researching. What really was on the ‘other side?’ Would I get lost on the other side? Would it be easy for me to find my way home? Who would I meet there? What would I learn?
That day I didn’t complete my task at hand. I sat on the computer stool, I read the instructions, I even asked for help, and I felt overwhelmed by all the new things I needed to do to connect with you.
Now, about 15 years later, I spend most of my time with you, on the other side. If I’m not sleeping or driving, you can usually count on me visiting with you at some point during my day. I’ve even had days when I couldn’t pull myself away from you! Usually when I wake up, you’re the first place I visit, and when I go to sleep, I check in just to make sure I didn’t miss anything before I drift off into the other, other world.
Well, World Wide Web, you’re not going to be very happy with what I’m about to share.
On November 21st, I had the most amazing day! I spent the majority of the day living on the side from which I was born! The side where I’m connected with nature! (You probably won’t understand what I’m about to share, the experience, so I’ll understand if you become idle after a while and go to sleep.)
My day started with a great and sweaty Yoga session and then I proceeded to enjoy a yummy farm-to-table breakfast outside. After, I had a beautiful walk amongst the trees, I listened to the birds, and I sat by a stream, allowing my feet to connect with the earth. I connected with the beautiful sun, the gentle breeze and all the beautiful energy around me. After a deep inhalation, I was reminded that this exists for me all the time! That I do not have to wait to connect with nature! After my walk, I still wasn’t ready to visit with you yet, so I decided to stop by a private airport nearby where helicopter tours are offered. Lucky me, they had one seat available for an afternoon tour! I quickly jumped at the opportunity and purchased the best seat for viewing all of the beauty – front row, next to the door.
Well, the tour was as breath-giving, as one could possibly imagine. I was moved to tears by the beauty of it all. I continuously thanked God, my Angels, Kaua’i, Hawai’i for allowing me to be part of something so beautiful. I was grateful that I could call Kaua’i home. I was grateful that I was able to see exactly how beautiful nature can be and is. And all of this beauty exists, all the time, and I can see it anytime I want, just by going outside. Just by choosing not to visit with you.
That day, I LIVED. It was an epiphany for me! That I’ve been teaching folks to live, rather than exist, to do what they love. And for the last few years, I’ve been spending most of my time existing with you, World Wide Web, and missing out on the things I love to do. Like traveling, reading books, playing in nature, taking new classes, connecting with and meeting new people by looking them in the eye, shaking their hands, hugging them and sharing meals with them.
When I came home I thought to myself, “Who can I share this amazing day with? Who will be happy for me, authentically?” The person who came to mind was not on the other side with you. She was someone who appreciates the voice-to-voice connection. And she also doesn’t spend much time with you anymore. In fact, she told me that she just spent 4 days with her family and didn’t pick up her phone once to connect with you. She said she wanted to be fully present in the moment and enjoy herself, and she did just that. And I could completely relate.
Before I went to bed that day, I caved, and I visited with you. I shared with people on your side about my amazing day. And even though a few people “liked” what I shared, it didn’t compare to calling my friend, and sharing the experience with her.
So, as I write this, I wanted to let you know that I will be spending less time visiting with you. I still love being able to share my thoughts with you, as I love to write, I will just be doing so less frequently, and the locations from where I share may change too. As for my businesses that need to stay connected with you, I have asked people who understand my vision to help me. This way I can truly “practice what I preach”, and not just be the teacher. 😉 After all, I was given this gift of life, and what’s the point of receiving this amazing gift, if I’m not going to use it fully and LIVE?
To the people who still love connecting with me through you, they can visit LisaEve.com, and this blog will stay up and running, though they might see some changes to it over time. I am a creative person, and that too, has been missing from my life, like arts and crafts! Remember that? Oh no, I don’t think you know what I’m talking about. Well, like the arts and crafts I used to make, my posts might change to include more pictures, maybe even some music, or a video of me talking with you! There is no limit to how fully I can live, so this will be an adventure!
Thank you for being so understanding World Wide Web. We’ve enjoyed a wonderful partnership over the years and I’m truly grateful for all the amazing people I’ve been able to connect with and things I’ve been able to learn, and things I’ve learned about myself!
I’ll see you again soon, I promise! (Though probably later rather than sooner!)
With love and gratitude,
Something’s been on my mind for a while.
Let’s talk about Trades.
What is a Trade?
A Trade is an exchange of services without compensation.
When you provide a service that people like and enjoy, someone might approach you one day and ask if you would like to do a Trade. If they provide a service that you feel you would like to experience without exchanging money, you might consider this.
Some questions to ask yourself when someone approaches you for a Trade:
1. Do you REALLY want the other person’s service?
2. Do you need it?
3. Would you pay them for their service?
If you answered NO to any of the questions above, reconsider if it’s worth your time to provide your service for free.
Here’s how I feel about Trades: I do not like them.
For my services, I charge what I feel my time and experience is worth. I also know that when I go into session, it is my responsibility to be fully present and offer the best possible reading/healing that I can. I do this for all my clients, past and prospective. I care about what I do and I love being of service.
I can only hope that when I pay someone else for their services that I am receiving the same type of dedication and passion. And I get to decide whether or not to continue to pay a person for their service.
When it comes to a Trade, the person usually asking for the trade does not want to pay you for your service. So, that begs the question, WHY?
Do they not value your time? Do they not value your experience? Do they not value your service? And if they do not value your time, your experience, and your service, do you think they value their own?
So, consider this when agreeing to do a Trade with someone. If they do not value what you feel your services are worth, will they give you a fair trade? What exactly will you be receiving?
Also, if you have paid for someone’s service and he or she has never paid for yours, and asks for a trade, I would walk away. It’s like they want a freebie and that is already not an even exchange. And there’s no integrity in that.
Don’t underestimate how much your time, experience and service is worth! Don’t let others disempower you! You are gifted and deserve to be compensated what you feel works for you and your business!
Thanks for reading and talk soon! 🙂
I am so happy when I see my friends accomplishing and living their dreams.
I am so happy when I see people in the community support others lovingly, without expectation of receiving something in return.
I am so happy when I read about an event where people are being kind towards one another.
There are so many reasons to be thoughtful, loving, kind, respectful, open-hearted and understanding. So then why do so many people choose to be the opposite? What is the pay-off? What is the reward?
Just because someone else displays negativity, it doesn’t mean we need to emulate.
Choose your words consciously. They can have a lasting impact.
Choose friends who support you, authentically. (Not just ones who like you because they want to ride your coattails.)
Choose friends who celebrate your successes WITH you!
Honor your feelings. If something doesn’t feel good inside, do you need to set a boundary?
Empower yourself. Are you doing things just because others are? Are you choosing your life, rather than letting others choose it for you?
Believe in yourself. Love yourself. Support yourself and know that you deserve to be happy.