Take a Step Back to Empower Yourself

Take a Step Back to Empower Yourself

When I take a step back, it’s not back in time.
It’s more of stepping away from the situation, conversation, or experience.
My joy is in my heart. When I’m not feeling joy, what can I see when I step back? What perspective can I gain by being an outsider?
Where can I distill the shades of green, blue, and black?
What parts of me am I missing when joy is not involved?
Who can see better than me what’s best/right/joyful for me?
A joyous outcome does not serve if it’s not rooted in love.
Taking a step back gives me clarity. Presence.
And then, I can reintegrate and bring the fullness of me forward into the light of day where there are yellows, oranges, and greens, colors that shine lighter than the dark hues that once filled my space and denied me access to joy. It’s in the dark I see the light. It’s when I step back that I can see the bigger picture of my soul.
Empowering yourself is embodying your power. It’s in you, and has been there all along.
Don’t let anyone tell you how to do you. Do not let anyone describe the difference between what’s right and wrong for you. Sometimes it takes more than a few run-ins with dark shades of green, blue and black to arrive at your light. Do not let that deter you. Hold the key in your dominant hand. Push the door open with your other hand or body, and know that you deserve to step forward. You deserve to be in the new space you created for yourself. You deserve to be.
Step back, and see.

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Something’s been on my mind for a while.

Let’s talk about Trades.

What is a Trade?

A Trade is an exchange of services without compensation.

When you provide a service that people like and enjoy, someone might approach you one day and ask if you would like to do a Trade. If they provide a service that you feel you would like to experience without exchanging money, you might consider this.

Some questions to ask yourself when someone approaches you for a Trade:

1. Do you REALLY want the other person’s service?

2. Do you need it?

3. Would you pay them for their service?

If you answered NO to any of the questions above, reconsider if it’s worth your time to provide your service for free.

Here’s how I feel about Trades: I do not like them.

For my services, I charge what I feel my time and experience is worth. I also know that when I go into session, it is my responsibility to be fully present and offer the best possible reading/healing that I can. I do this for all my clients, past and prospective. I care about what I do and I love being of service.

I can only hope that when I pay someone else for their services that I am receiving the same type of dedication and passion. And I get to decide whether or not to continue to pay a person for their service.

When it comes to a Trade, the person usually asking for the trade does not want to pay you for your service. So, that begs the question, WHY?

Do they not value your time? Do they not value your experience? Do they not value your service? And if they do not value your time, your experience, and your service, do you think they value their own?

So, consider this when agreeing to do a Trade with someone. If they do not value what you feel your services are worth, will they give you a fair trade? What exactly will you be receiving?

Also, if you have paid for someone’s service and he or she has never paid for yours, and asks for a trade, I would walk away. It’s like they want a freebie and that is already not an even exchange. And there’s no integrity in that.

Don’t underestimate how much your time, experience and service is worth! Don’t let others disempower you! You are gifted and deserve to be compensated what you feel works for you and your business!

‘Nuff said.

Thanks for reading and talk soon! 🙂

Thought of the Day…

I am so happy when I see my friends accomplishing and living their dreams.

I am so happy when I see people in the community support others lovingly, without expectation of receiving something in return.

I am so happy when I read about an event where people are being kind towards one another.

There are so many reasons to be thoughtful, loving, kind, respectful, open-hearted and understanding. So then why do so many people choose to be the opposite? What is the pay-off? What is the reward?

Just because someone else displays negativity, it doesn’t mean we need to emulate.

Choose your words consciously. They can have a lasting impact.

Choose friends who support you, authentically. (Not just ones who like you because they want to ride your coattails.)
Choose friends who celebrate your successes WITH you!

Honor your feelings. If something doesn’t feel good inside, do you need to set a boundary?

Empower yourself. Are you doing things just because others are? Are you choosing your life, rather than letting others choose it for you?

Believe in yourself. Love yourself. Support yourself and know that you deserve to be happy.


I’m connected! :)

Aloha! 🙂

Since my last post, I wanted to mention that 1) All is well and 2) I took another Mediumship class with Doreen Virtue! Doreen Virtue is the mother of Charles Virtue, the wonderful teacher of my Angel Practitioner class I took in Laguna Beach prior to moving to Maui. She is what I consider to be the ‘Mother Ship’ in working with our heavenly angels and the ‘other side.’ She has written many books, angel oracle card decks and has held many classes all over the world.  She is an author with the infamous publisher Hay House, founded by Louise Hay (who I found out incidentally has the same Birthday as me! Cool!!)

Ok, ok, a lot of mentions in there, I know.  Just giving you some background to my story.  🙂

Anyways, before I moved to Maui, I signed up to take Doreen’s class, as she was on the Big Island.  It made sense to go since I was going to be so close! Even after I took Tina Marie Daly’s class, I still wanted to go and become re-certified.  After all, this was another GREAT opportunity to fine-tune my craft and meet more lovely lightworkers! 🙂 And so I went, and met Doreen Virtue and many other wonderful people! The best part of my experience is that I continued to re-affirm I have special gifts.

Sometimes as we go along on our paths and discover why we’re here and/or what we’re meant to do here, we wonder if we have what it ‘really’ takes.  I’m here to let you know, WE DO! There are no accidents in this world, no coincidences, and you are exactly where you are supposed to be in this moment.  Even when you have moments of self-doubt, push past that fear and TRUST as you keep on moving. 🙂

So, since I have returned to Maui I’ve taken the necessary steps to start my Mediumship & Angel Practitioner business. The dream of owning my own business is finally coming true! I got a Business License, I did a few free readings in exchange for feedback, I’ve set up an office, my business cards are on their way, I’ll be creating a website momentarily and I’ve been spreading the word! 🙂

Here’s a great story…

The other day I went into a store to buy some crystals and other goodies for my office environment and usually there is someone there to offer readings.  That day the person called in sick and while I was in the store, a lovely young lady came in and asked for a reading.  I had just told the storekeeper that I was a Medium and so without hesitation, she told the young lady that I could do the reading for her! And so I did, on the spot! It was perfect! Perfect and divinely timed! The reading was great! I could tell I was hitting the mark with the client as she responded, “that makes sense” and I could see emotion in her eyes.  Oh and did I mention it was her FIRST reading? What a gift that I was able to give to her! She paid me, took my number and said she’s gonna tell all her friends about me! WooHoo! 🙂

When I was finished with the reading I felt as if my angels were celebrating. I was on Cloud 9, 10, and 11! Ha ha! 🙂

Anyways, what I wanted to say is that as I’ve continued on my path, I’ve become more and more connected, inside.  Intuitively, I am stronger than I’ve ever been. Even though I consider myself professionally as a Medium & Angel Practitioner, I can also affirm I am an Intuitive. My gifts are real! 🙂

So, in closing, I just wanted to say that when you find your true calling, you will know it and it will flow like water. It may not be easy, but just follow the steps and you will be greatly rewarded.

“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.

Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” ~ Bruce Lee

‘Til next time, thanks for reading and Happy Dreaming! 🙂