There is NO Competition
There is no competition. I say this over and over when companies interview me to determine if they can provide me with services for my websites. They want to know; who is my competition? And I always say the same, ‘I do not feel I have any.’ This is not an egotistical remark, it is quite the opposite!
Ya’ see, the purpose of life is to make a difference in the world somehow. To be of service, to help our fellow brothers and sisters to achieve something of greater value than when we arrived here. We all have the skills, and we learn as we go on how to implement these skills and live a life we love. The tricky part is that we are still living in a time of great fear. Fear dominates our lives; prohibiting us to move forward towards our dreams with total support and total faith in its assured outcome. What I mean by total support is that while you may have one or two people eager to help, the majority of people will sit back and hide, either in fear of what others will think, or fear of there not being enough money, time, resources or space for everything to coexist smoothly. Fear is a lie. There is an abundance of everything and great teachers and masters know this.
I recently wrote a Newsletter about this Worldly Abundance. Here’s an excerpt, “Just as there is an abundance of Italian restaurants, different models of cars, and an incredible number of white t-shirts, there is an abundance of money to experience it all! Think I’m joking? Take a look at the Fun and Happy Facts! >>>>>
- All US$ coins and bills in circulation today are worth US$1.2 Trillion! (That’s just USD!) And did you know the World population currently is approximately 7.2 billion? [Ref. factslides.com/s-Money]
- If a person had 10 billion $1 notes and spent one every second of the day, it would take 317 years to spend it all. [Ref. facts.randomhistory.com/money-facts.html]
- Over 170 different currencies are used around the world today. [Ref. Hall, Alvin D. 2008. Show Me the Money: How to Make Cents of Economics. New York, NY: DK Publishing]”
So, then why do we compete with one another? It is the fear of not being good enough to make a difference. That your skills, products, invention, ideas, etc., will be overlooked, not valued, unfulfilled and therefore your EGO strikes a chord, a nerve for you to ‘be better’ than somebody else and their ideas, skills, products, ideas, etc. The truth is we ALL have something beautiful we bring to the table. While we may have similar ideas, our imprint is unique. Each individual contributes uniquely. Your energy, and your soul has its own blueprint. So, there is no need to compete. We all like different things, and it is because we are unique, that we CAN create a million different t-shirt lines, have over 75 brands of cars, and have an abundance of Italian restaurants outside of Italy!
If you truly want to make a difference in this world, you will find like-minded people to collaborate with, rather than tear down. We can help each other to experience life at its most magnificent. WE can help each other to enJOY our time here. The goal is to help our world evolve. And it starts with you and your mindset. Look around and you will see abundance everywhere. There is no competition.
Who Wants World Peace?
Do you want World Peace?
Many of you have said you want it, but are you willing to authentically do what it takes to have it?
All that is needed is LOVE.
And this needs to start at home, within you.
Once you have mastered love for yourself, you can love others.
And once you begin loving others, they too can learn self-love and then spread the love.
We can teach each other what it looks like to love one another.
And then we will have World Peace.
But so many of you refuse to love yourselves and thus refuse to love others. Why do you do this?
Do you think you do not deserve love? Do you think it will run out? Do you think it is not real?
If you’ve ever taken the time to not work; to take a bath, to play outside, to watch your kids sleep, to take a nap, to take a vacation to a place you’ve dreamed of visiting; then you know about love.
Self-love requires you to look deep within yourself, to ask yourself what you really need and want right now.
Is it a new job?
Is it a new partner?
Is it to be in a relationship?
Is it to be single?
Is it to live in a new location?
Is it to take a vacation?
Is it to travel around the world?
Is it to love your body just as it is?
Are you beating yourself up for past choices? Are you choosing partners who hurt you? Do you continually find yourself living out the same patterns, repeating conversations that sound like many you’ve had before? Are you tired of the same ol’ same ol’ routine? Are you tired in general? Do you want to avoid life altogether and sleep all the time?
If any of this resonates or has triggered you in some way, it’s time to stop fighting yourself. Be done with suffering.
Every day the sun rises and you wake, you have an opportunity to have a love-filled day.
World peace begins with Self-peace. Having peace within means you know love within.
Take time to get to know yourself, rediscover the love that has always been there and you will feel peace in your heart.
Sometimes we need to grieve to heal, and that’s okay. Let your tears flow, they will cleanse your body and soul. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you need to feel, to release what’s been hurting inside. Write your feelings in a journal.
The time is now.
Stop punishing others for the lack of love within. Stop avoiding yourself. If you take the time to really uncover who you authentically are, you’ll be blown away by how amazing you are! How powerful you are! How big your heart truly is! And how there is an endless supply of love for yourself so you can love others abundantly too!
Today can be your day. Today you can be free. Today you can choose YOU. Today you can choose LOVE.
(Please, choose LOVE.)
‘Til next time, thanks for reading, and keep on LOVING! 🙂
I am so happy when I see my friends accomplishing and living their dreams.
I am so happy when I see people in the community support others lovingly, without expectation of receiving something in return.
I am so happy when I read about an event where people are being kind towards one another.
There are so many reasons to be thoughtful, loving, kind, respectful, open-hearted and understanding. So then why do so many people choose to be the opposite? What is the pay-off? What is the reward?
Just because someone else displays negativity, it doesn’t mean we need to emulate.
Choose your words consciously. They can have a lasting impact.
Choose friends who support you, authentically. (Not just ones who like you because they want to ride your coattails.)
Choose friends who celebrate your successes WITH you!
Honor your feelings. If something doesn’t feel good inside, do you need to set a boundary?
Empower yourself. Are you doing things just because others are? Are you choosing your life, rather than letting others choose it for you?
Believe in yourself. Love yourself. Support yourself and know that you deserve to be happy.
“Is that a bruise on your leg? Does it hurt?” asked the Nail technician as I was receiving a pedicure. I responded, “No, it’s a vein. I’ve had it there all my life.”
I felt good about saying that.
I remember a time when having that vein-like bruise caused me shame. In fact, I was embarrassed to wear shorts and skirts until about 2011.
My legs have been a huge source of insecurity for me all my life. I’ve had spider and reticular veins in my legs for as long as I can remember. I’ve also had a cyst in one thigh since I was 15. And, in terms of muscle tone, I have to work the hardest on my legs to maintain their strength. I joined the track team in high school mostly because I wanted toned legs and sexy calves. (I liked to run too, but I mostly wanted strong, firm legs.)
Many times during my youth I wished for “perfect” legs. In terms of solutions, all they had during that time was a leg cream that was like a concealer. But it was never an even application and had to be reapplied every day. I also went to the doctor to have my cyst removed, but was told it would leave a scoop in my leg, like scooping out a ball of melon. Rather than risk more embarrassment, I chose to leave it. It’s benign anyway, so the only people I’ve had to explain this weird bump on my leg was with massage therapists or if I became intimate. And yes, that caused a lot of insecurity for me in the area of being intimate.
For some reason though, I never felt to get surgery, or laser treatments when there was a solution for unsightly leg veins. There were many times I’d pass by the offices that advertised that my legs could look beautiful, and still, as insecure as I was, I could never bring myself to make an appointment. I dreamed of a day when I would feel comfortable enough in my own body, just as it was, to show off my legs and be proud.
Thankfully, that day came when I moved to Maui and began strength training. I didn’t actually wear shorts until I felt my legs were “tight” enough to be exposed. What that meant for me was that there was little to no cellulite, and they felt firm. They didn’t need to be rock-solid, just smooth and toned. So, it wasn’t until I was in my 30’s that I began wearing shorts, skirts and felt sexy. (Crazy, right?) And, with this new found freedom, I also didn’t care about the veins in my legs. I didn’t care who saw what, if it made them uncomfortable or embarrassed for me. I was good. It was a miracle!
The true miracle though, was that day with the nail technician. Why? Because on that day, I was not in my prime “tight” shape. I trained for a while, and then I became very busy with work and I couldn’t do it all. I didn’t have the energy to train as hard, or as much, and my legs were the first to change. So even though my legs were not “perfect” by the media standards, I didn’t care. I rocked what my momma gave me (in some short shorts too) and knew and felt that I was STILL beautiful. Veins, cellulite, a little jiggle when I wiggled, I let it all hang out.
But why would I have to fear or be insecure about my body in the first place? In my last post titled “#Mirror“, I addressed how many people scorned Miley Cyrus’ performance at the MTV VMA’s. It’s not the first time the media has gone ballistic over what a woman has worn, or not worn in a performance. And sadly, much of our world seems to think that what the Media says, is the “truth.” But how many times does the media scorn a man and how he looks? It’s rare. So we have a bunch of copycats, and misguided young people (who become misguided adults) who don’t know how to think for themselves, or honor themselves and understand that they are beautiful, regardless of what they see in magazines or on the news. It’s sad.
Do you remember back in the day when full-figured women were the predominant images portrayed by painters? A woman just as she was, au-natural, was beautiful, and was considered art. I have learned over the years that men love a confident woman. Period. Rock those lumps, bumps, curves, and everything your momma gave you and trust me, there will be men, (and women) who will find you sexy. It’s not about what the Media finds sexy, it’s what you hold as the truth for yourself.
Additionally, I would like to say that eating healthy and exercising has contributed to me feeling good in my body. I now choose exercises that are in resonance with what my body needs on a whole, rather than choosing to exercise from a place of insecurity.
So as I am a work in progress, so is much of the World. After all, we are a reflection of one another. And isn’t it time we (all) felt good about ourselves? Just as we are? Appreciative of one another and knowing that we are good enough, worthy enough and attractive without having to alter ourselves using non-natural methods? I pray and dream of that day. Do you?
‘Til next time, thanks for reading, and yes, YOU are beautiful.
Here’s the truth about Life.
From the moment we are born, we are dying. Those who are actually told when they will die (from diseases, accidents, surgeries, etc.) have an opportunity to choose how they want to leave earth, whenever that is. They have the choice of how they want to live while they are here, and if they have anything they’d like to change, or people with whom they’d like to make amends with, they know how much time (approximately) they have to do so.
However, for the rest of us, WE are given that same opportunity, it just looks different. Because we haven’t been given a timeline, we have an opportunity in EVERY DAY of our lives to make amends and choose how we want to live.
Questions to ask yourself: If you were going to die tomorrow, would you change anything about your life? Would you reach out to someone you haven’t spoken with in a while? Is there anyone you would like to apologize to? Are you proud of how you have lived your life?
Since you really don’t know when your time is “up”, every day is another day for you to make a change, if you wanted to. When people say, “be grateful you have another day”, it’s true! Think about all the people who went to work in NYC on the morning of September 11, 2001. Even though I didn’t work in or near the World Trade Center, my life was affected by what happened. And imagine all those who woke up and went to work that day and never woke up again.
Our intuition serves as a guide even in that area. Some folks knew it was “their time”, and others made peace with it. And I bet there was a handful who really weren’t expecting to die that day.
So, the truth is that we’re ALL going to die one day. At this very moment, you are dying. When is that day? You don’t know, unless you are tuned into your intuition and you trust your guidance system.
The questions to ask yourself now are:
How do I want to live?
Am I happy with my life?
Do I have a ‘bucket list’, and if so, have I crossed anything off it yet?
If I am not happy with my life, what can I do to change it, even if it’s a small step?
(A step is a step, no matter its size, it’s still moving you forward.)
Is there anyone I wish I could speak with? Is there anyone I miss and with whom wish I could communicate?
(If any of these people have already passed, you CAN tell them you miss them. If you feel you need to make amends with someone who has passed, you CAN do so. Just call their name, internally in your mind or out loud, and share with them what you feel is in your heart. It’s never too late, they can still hear you.)
Are there any dreams I wish I would have pursued?
(It doesn’t matter your age, it’s never too late. I know a woman who, at 92 went back to school to get her college degree.)
Choose to live a life you’re proud of and think about how you want to be remembered. THIS is YOUR TIME, RIGHT NOW, and NOW, and NOW. Go! Live! Be Happy! You deserve to live a great life!
‘Til next time, thanks for reading & Happy Dreaming! 🙂